Ah, Relationships!
One of the worlds greatest mysteries (and causes of frustration and distress) to the entire human population!
Men are blessed to clearly know exactly what they want, and what's good for them, in a woman. The issue we men run into here is convincing that special women that what they need most in life is us!
After much trial and error I have discovered this one weird trick that will convince your woman that you two are destined for each other! Now it's not hard to pull off. Just read carefully and in a few minutes you will be irresistible.
[Insert second testimonial here.] ["I had no idea that understanding how women work could be so simple! The simple and easy trick I learned here has changed my life! Thank you Paradigm Shift!"]
Women
First, a few stereotype based blanket statements about women.
- ... Ok, the only 100% similarity between women I can think of is that they have two X chromosomes. Every woman is completely different. Different motives, different desires, different backgrounds, expectations, likes, dislikes, family situations, personalities, talents, etc. Luckily, the trick I will teach you touches their most basic genetic patterns and so it'll work for all women, anytime, anywhere!
Men
We have been blessed, most of us at least, with the ability to oversimplify things and base ourselves in cause-effect mechanisms. We like formulas with predictable outcomes. I have a friend and a brother in the computer science major at a university and in a class of 40 there'll be maybe two girls. On a good day. We like the fact that when we plug in x or y we get a defined set of outcomes that we can control and manipulate.
Men. Women are not formulas. It's a straight up sham for anyone to try and say:
Man + 'weird trick learned off a blog on the internet' = irresistible specimen of manliness
The Trick
The moment you've all been waiting for.
Trick: Look like Ryan Gosling, act like Chris Evans, have Donald Trump's money, and have the acting skills of Benedict Cumberbatch so that you can lie and fake being whatever kind of man she's really "into."
Even now there will be tons of women arguing that Ryan Gosling isn't the hottest, or they'd rather have a guy who wasn't filthy rich, and that none of them want a man that who is lying and faking who he is just to get them,
There is no trick. I think deep down inside we all know that. Of course it doesn't stop us from wanting there to be an easier way to a womans heart. But men, please, stop thinking that way.
I do have some tips for guys here that can make a big difference in how you approach dating. But if you think there's some sort of magic solution to dating you'd better change your thinking.
"What do you look for in a guy?"
Why do we ask this question? After all, we all do. Honestly, I think this is a great question to ask if you're thinking about it in the right way. The problem is most guys don't.
It's fine if we ask it thinking "Let's see if the kinds of qualities she looks for in a man are actually qualities I possess or are trying to develope. This'll also tell me a little bit about what kind of a woman she is."
But most guys are really asking this: "Tell me what kind of guy I need to act like so I can make you fall for me."
Men are idiots sometimes. I've said that to many guys on many occasions and every time I get chuckles and nods of affirmation in response.
We are told to be with someone who makes us want to be our best self. However, there's a difference between being your best self and changing who you are to be with someone you want. We are all different. And thank heavens for that!
Look for a girl who makes you want to be the best man you can be, but not a women for whom you have to pretend to be something you're not.
It Takes Two
You may think she's the girl of your dreams, but she might think you're just a friend. Or vice-versa. That doesn't mean that either of you are necessarily wrong or undesirable.
There were some great suggestions from a friend of mine to guys in general, but those are only suggestions and won't apply in every circumstance. The best thing to do is just be yourself and try to find a girl who will just like you for who you are. There is no magic lamp that'll give you the secret to women.
Women are confusing and complex... And guys aren't?
Women are confusing, that's not really gonna change for us, but what we can do is figure ourselves out first. Honestly, I guys are much more confusing than we give ourselves credit for sometimes. At least for me personally I'm not nearly as in touch with my emotions than most of the women I know are. I have a hard time figuring myself out and identifying exactly what's going on in my head. More often than I care to admit I've been the confusing one in a relationship. This applies to guys in general.
Men are quite content to let women take the title "confusing" or "complex" while we revel in our simplicity. That's cutting ourselves kinda short guys. Maybe we would take ourselves and our emotions more seriously if we started realizing that men are more than "stomachs on legs." Wouldn't our conversations deepen a little bit if we took more seriously to the fact that in some areas we might actually be the more confusing and complex of the two genders? I think they would.
What would happen if society flipped in one night? If as a whole men were called confusing and women were titled as "simple" or "shallow" (as men are so often titled)? It would be fascinating to watch what the results of that would be. I'll not give any more thoughts about it other than the fact that perhaps by us telling, or being told, what we are then we are more apt to act that way.
Conc.
There's no magic formula that will win you a woman. But maybe for the best results in the end try these:
- Be yourself. Your best self. Not someone else.
- Let her be her best self.
- Don't patronize, don't stereotype.
- Try to figure yourself out before trying to figure out someone else. (Hint, you'll be stuck on that first half for...... oh..... probably your lifetime?)
- You don't usually find a bananna in the celery section. Make sure you're looking in the right places.
Good luck guys. It's a rough social world out there.
Andrew
