Breakup Tips

Breaking Up
This is a simple matter of again applying what we know about how girls and guys think. Every situation is different, adapt these suggestions as each applies.

Girl breaking up with guy:
Be straightforward and to the point. If possible have specific instances and situations that highlight the reasons for the breakup. Don't say too much. Say what you're there to say. Be tactful, but don't "coddle."

Guy breaking up with girl:
Girls also want to hear about breakups in a straightforward manner, but not nearly as straightforward as a guy would. Tell her you need to break up, but then cushion the blow with compliments. Tell her what she does well, why you're breaking up with her, how awesome she is, how much your relationship meant to you, etc.

Girl being broken up with:
Make him tell you specifically why he is breaking up with you. It will be hard to hear those from him, but it will leave you with less doubts about yourself and your past-relationship. On occasion a compromise can be figured out right then and there and save the relationship, but sometimes he just needs time. Hearing specifically why he's breaking things off will tell you 1) If he's just a tool. 2) If there are things that you might need to change about yourself (no one's perfect, get used to it). 3) If he might just need time. Sometimes, usually after a few breakups and getbacktogethers, you need to give an ultimatum "If you choose to end things with me then don't come back. I don't need the emotional rollercoaster of what we've had in the past. Either we're going to make things work, or not." Then stick to it!

Guy being broken up with:
When you've decided to break up with a girl usually not much changes that decision. When a girl decides to break up then there were a lot more factors that went into that decision. A big one is usually your commitment to the relationship. A natural instinct for guys while being broken up with is to just "take it like a man" and walk away. This isn't what she wants to see. To her that just looks like you really don't care about the relationship. Men, if you care enough about a girl to make her want to keep a relationship with you then you must open up to her. Throw your "manly pride" aside and tell her what she means to you, commit to work on things, listen to her feelings and honestly try to empathize. Guys have feelings too you know. This might just save your relationship.

Good luck friends.

Andrew