The "good guys" have all flown to Neverland. I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news.

Good Guys
"Where did all the good guys go?" I've heard this phrase from a number of female friends lately and it's begun to frustrate me.

You're the last good man Sam. May you breed
many more like yourself.

As if all the good men in the world suddenly boarded a boat, Lord of the Rings style, and sailed off into the sunset leaving behind a few Hobbits as well as all the jerks, tools, and creepers?

Or perhaps the good guys just died off like an exotic breed of bird.

Better yet, there might be a government project in area 51 where they're sending all the good guys as ambassadors to other planets. I mean, we obviously wouldn't want to send the guys most of you are dating currently. We'd be in intergalactic war within the week. Hahaha, but seriously.

So then what happened to all of those "good guys?" I have a few ideas. Here's one though. There were never any good guys.

Not until you created them at least.

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In case you are unaware, before men are men they are teenagers. Before tenagers are teenagers they are boys. Boys are boys. I sincerely hope this isn't new news to anyone. Boys -> Teens -> Men. Got it? Now that we've got the basics lets talk through it.

Each of these levels of "manhood" are reached physically without trying. The body naturally grows larger and ages as time passes. Emotionally, however, this growth happens because of expectations and teaching. A child will behave forever as a child until it is taught differently. It will not learn to crawl if we insist on carrying it everywhere. It will not learn to tie its shoes if we always tie them.

I said that there were never any "good guys" until they were created. I mean this. Boys will act like boys until an expectation is placed for them to be more. Good men are created because a boy had someone who expected more of him.

Now lets apply this to dating, courting, and relationships.

Chivalry went with your expectations. 
Dear women of the world, you are far more powerful than you realize. That's the big secret that shouldn't be a secret! Your influence and your expectations have much more impact on the men you date than you give yourselves credit for!

If you want to be treated like a lady then 1) act like a lady, and 2) don't let yourself be treated less. If

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he is any sort of a decent chap then he will respond to that! I took a girl out once that stood next to my car until I walked around and opened the door for her. You know what? You'd better believe I opened every door for that girl for the rest of the night. And I was very impressed with her! She acted like a lady, she let me know politely that she expected to be treated like one, and I was happy to be out with such an impressive girl.

If you date a jerk, either have a plan to help him out or expect to be treated like a jerk. Oh and here's a tip for you. If he's a jerk to everyone except you, brace yourself. Two-faced people eventually start mixing faces. If you say to a friend "Well he doesn't do that to me" or "he doesn't treat me like that" and your friend responds with something like "well that's cause he likes you" then you'd better watch yourself in that relationship, cause no relationship is perfect forever and when the two of you hit a little bump on the road of life you'd better be prepared to be treated the same way he's been treating everyone else.

I've seen girls date a complete tool and say "well I can change him." Hun that's like 1 out of 1,000. Most of the time the girl turns into a tool too or she eventually dumps him. Gosh, the best thing that can be done for that guy is not date him in the first place and tell him you won't date a guy like him. Now THAT'll make him think, and probably make him change pretty fast. Albeit make sure it's a genuine change too, because men can turn into award-winning actors to get what they want sometimes.

Basically
If what you want truly want is a "good guy" then bring up your expectations. Haha, don't go overboard with it, but you have the power to change a lot.

Andrew